Contributor: Angela Kidd
There are many ways to work through an outburst without trouble, and here are some of the most effective ways:
Prevention is key
Make sure that you take time each day to give your child your full attention. Set aside a regular playtime with just the two of you. Point out good behaviors, big or small. Positive experiences like this helps children control themselves better during upsetting times.
It’s also important to watch out for signs and situations that are likely to lead to an outburst and prevent them. If he throws a tantrum when he’s overtired, set a regular naptime.
Always keep your calm
When your child throws a fit, it’s either he wants to assert what he wants or feels that he has no control over a situation. The more upset he becomes, the calmer you should be – if you shout, the more likely he is to do so because they want to engage and match your volume.
Talk him down calmly and assure that everything will be okay, but be firm about the idea that he can’t always get what he wants. Speaking calmly will send the message that things can be worked out through talking. A big, firm hug will go a long way, too!
Observe and Listen
Tantrums also often roots from miscommunication. Since young toddlers (2.5 years and below) have a limited vocabulary, they often can’t say what they want. Or if they try to, the parents don’t understand.
Talk to your child calmly and ask what she wants – if she points to the TV, she probably wants to watch something specifically. If she points to a sibling, it probably means that the sibling has something to do with why she’s upset.
Offer something else
A great trick to make ids forget the meltdown they’re having is by creating a diversion. Offer something new to their eyes like a toy they haven’t played with in a while, a new book or a new yummy snack.
You can also let them play outside – a change of environment will surely boost their mood and forget their outburst.
When nothing seems to work, sometimes ignoring your child while throwing a fit will. Sometimes children just want to vent and let their feelings out (like us adults do). Let him cry for a few minutes and then try the abovementioned tactics again when he starts to calm down.
Toddler tantrums are a normal part of growing up – young kids are yet to grasp how they can handle their feelings and it’s up to us parents to guide them accordingly.
Angela Kidd is an author and illustrator, a wife and a mother to 3 beautiful kids. In her spare time, she would personally create storybooks and coloring books for her children for fun and they loved it.. And so did she. Angela quit her job and created her own line of educational activity books for children of various ages, with the main goal of making learning fun!