By James Nussbaumer
You’ll want to keep yourself motivated and occupied if you are coping with a breakup and moving forward in life and you’re thinking that life moves on.
The more you let move and go on the better you will feel in time.
Whatever route you decide is right for you for moving forward in life while coping with a break up, you must always give yourself time to begin to understand that life moves on.
The Course in Miracles teaches us all about time in this world being used for “overcoming learning handicaps” and as a “healing device.”
Coping with a break up means you appear detached, relying on some self-confidence and feeling mature.
In the weeks and months after the breakup make sure that you spend time looking after yourself emotionally and physically.
In that way, when the time is right for you to contact your ex, you are in great shape emotionally and physically.
Course in Miracles tells us, “Your learning goal has been not to learn, and this can not lead to successful learning.”
If you are convinced that the relationship is not over, that your ex has, in effect, made a mistake in ending the relationship, then you will no doubt be insane on rekindling the relationship.
It could be that you are acting from a false sense of self– the ego-based mind aspect in you, a part in all of us as humans that is set in fear and self-doubt.
In reality you are setting yourself up for even a bigger crisis, so please bear this in mind.
While coping with a breakup if you are sure in your mind that the relationship is not over and you want to find a way to heal the breakup, then here are some things to mull over.
Let your ex go with as little drama and fuss as possible if you both have agreed to the breakup.
When your ex sees that you’re handling the end of your relationship with such maturity, he/she will be very impressed.
When you’re up against how to deal with a bad breakup to spend hours and hours on your own is one of the worst things that you can do.
This will only leave you time to brood, reminisce and leave you feeling connected to your ex.
In that scenario you won’t find the mindset for moving forward in life.
Give a few friends a call, let them be aware of what you’re going through, but without dumping too much on them.
You don’t want to be seen as a basket or a burden case, but as well a good friend will respect you for being open and trusting in them for friendship.
Previously, a while ago, I discussed how to begin letting go and moving on with an effortless single step toward a journey you truly want.
When you are coping with a break up go easy on yourself while preparing your mind to let move and go on.
When perhaps you weren’t ready for the relationship to end, how to get over a relationship can be hard to do especially.
It may have been your spouse that wanted to let move and go on for whatever reason he/she had.
That’s okay, and if that’s the case, then there are two paths you can take: you can refuse to accept the relationship is really over, or you can find a way to begin moving forward in life– a life that is your own reality.
Be kind to yourself and bring out your best as you heal from the relationship.
The Course in Miracles states that, “Yet in this world your perfection is unwitnessed. God knows it, but you do not, and so you do not share His witness to it.”
Now it is the time for to start bringing out your best!
Yes, now it’s the perfect time to live your passion and a life of purpose.
Once your ex has left, it’s best that you do not make any contact with your ex. The last thing you want to do is to be constantly calling your ex and begging and pleading with him/her to take you back.
To continue coping with a break up and your appearance of maturity, begin moving forward in life and leave your ex for someone else to worry about.
While you are coping with a break up is a good time period for you to dive deep into a passion and make it a life of purpose.
Yes, I mean take up on something in your life that you’ve always wanted to do, but never took the time to do so.
Now you can pick up on that passionate inclination and nurture a new beginning for purpose in life– yes, a brand new start for the new you to come through.
Whatever it is that you need to do to keep your mind on your new journey and off your ex, then let move and go on.
To moving on and letting go!
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